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AM I READY
FOR LASTING LOVE?
Singles Relationship
Readiness Assessment Quiz
a gift from Annette
Carpien, annette@greatrelationshipscoaching.com
To assess your readiness for a
committed relationship, rate yourself in each of the following ten areas.
Try to be objective and honest with yourself. I recommend asking
close friends and family members for their opinions as well.
I recommend printing this out first.
Rating Scale: for each question,
1-10, 10 as most true.
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1.
I know what I want
I have a clear vision for my life and
relationship. I can envision my perfect life in rich detail that
feels strong, very real, and keeps me motivated.
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2.
I know my requirements
I have a written list of at least ten
non-negotiable requirements that I use for screening potential
partners. I am clear that if any are missing, a relationship will
not work for me.
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3.
I am happy and successful being single
I enjoy my life, my work, my family, my
friends, and my own company. I am living the life that I want, and I
am not seeking a relationship out of desperation and need.
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4.
I am ready and available for commitment
I have no emotional or legal baggage from a
previous relationship. My schedule, commitments and lifestyle allow
my availability to build a new relationship.
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5.
I am satisfied with my work/career
My work is fulfilling, supports my lifestyle,
and does not interfere with my availability for a new relationship.
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6.
I am healthy in
mind, body, and spirit
My physical, mental, or emotional health does
not interfere with having the life and relationship that I want. I
am reasonably happy and feel good.
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7.
My
financial and legal business is handled
I have no financial or legal issues that would
interfere with having the life and relationship that I want.
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8.
My family relationships are functional
My
relationships with my children, ex, siblings, parents, and extended
family do not interfere with having the life and relationship that I
want.
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9.
I have effective dating skills
I initiate contact with people I want to meet,
and disengage from people who are not a match for me. I keep my
sexual and emotional boundaries, and balance my heart with my head
with potential partners.
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10.
I have effective relationship skills
I understand relationships, can maintain
closeness and intimacy, communicate authentically and assertively,
negotiate difference positively, allow myself to trust and be
vulnerable, and can give and receive love without emotional
barriers.
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Add up your total score |
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80-100:
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Green light
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You are well on your way to the life and relationship you really want.
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60- 79: |
Yellow light
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Continue to work on the areas needed and take it slow in relationships.
Consider hiring a coach to help
you enhance those specific areas of your life. |
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0-59:
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Red light
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Focus on your own personal development and being a successful single
for now.
Get support for any areas below a 5
rating from a coach, therapist, clergy-person or other professional to raise
your assessment of yourself in 1 area at a time. |
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by David Steele, MA, LMFT, founder of
Relationship Coaching Institute, adapted,
with
permission, by Annette Carpien
a gift for you
from Annette Carpien,
annette@greatrelationshipscoaching.com
greatrelationshipscoaching.com
610-428-2755
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